That Awkward Moment

 

Stolen from the movie (pardon the French, and may contain spoilers):

“And then the other guy asked to buy her a drink, right as Jason walked up.  So, she asked that guy, ‘What happens if I enjoy the drink? What happens then?’  And he pretended not to know the answer, so she told him.  She asked if they’d play beer pong in that shitty bar with his friends, until they headed back to his place in Murray Hill.  She asked if they’d have to listen to his roommate fuck Hillary or Emily or whatever her name was until they fell asleep.  And she asked him if a year later, they’d still be there in that bar, the only difference being now he feels pressured to get married and have kids because he thinks that’s what she wants.  And then in the summers they would drive up to the shitty Hamptons—”

 “—to meet his shitty parents.”

 “… Wondering the entire ride if they’d think she was pretty enough.”

 “Smart?”

 “…Wondering the entire ride if they’d think she was smart enough.”

 “Because no one was.”

 “And no one ever will be.  And Jason knew that.  And he would give anything to go back to that moment… to the moment where they first met, before anything went wrong.  Before he didn’t show up for her when she needed him most.  Before he understood that being there for somebody when it’s most difficult is really all that relationships are.  Jason knew that now.  And he was so sorry for what he had done.  Jason also realized in that moment he wasn't afraid because he thought she wasn’t the one.  He was absolutely terrified because he knew she was.”

There is always that awkward moment where you send that text or grow the balls to ask the question, and you're too much of a thinker and you're too smart for your own good to not look ahead and see the probabilities and outcomes for that one small movement.  And it's like a domino effect.  You think you're just asking her to a movie.  You think you're just asking to buy her a drink.  What happens if you enjoy the movie?  What happens if she enjoys the drink?

It seems so simple, yet you're opening a door to something beyond anything you'd prepared for or dreamt about in your wildest dreams.  You're meeting her parents, who aren't shitty at all.  You're making her dinner at her house, going through old photos of her with her, visiting her at work, falling asleep next to her... And it was that one simple invitation; "Wanna see a movie?"

Before you know it, you've learned more about this other person that you thought possible.  You've formed a connection that you don't want to break.  And you're in a position where there's another awkward moment.  The first one was when you were unlike the douche nozzle in the bar asking to buy her a drink, ignorant and unaware of what a simple question could cause, but you had a good idea where your little question was going to take you.  You hesitated, weighed out your options, but did it anyway.  The second awkward moment is the "so" moment, as Zac Efron so colorfully describes in the movie; so... what?  Where do we go from here?

At the end of the day, these little things can so quickly grow into big things.  And you're not just asking for a drink.  You're practically considering marriage, all right there.  Just kidding.  Honestly, though, the most beautiful and miraculous things can rise up out of the most simple and normal things.  That's what I loved about this movie.

The other half of that dialogue was made up of mostly an apology.  "Being there for someone when they need you the most... that's all that relationships are."  I don't think I need to reiterate that in five different ways to explain it.  But I definitely watched this movie again with a friend the other night, and it was great.  I'd definitely recommend.  Sorry if I spoiled it all for you.

Anyway, these were just some thoughts about it all.  Now, I'm going to make the photo for this post a picture of a shirtless Zac Efron to convince women and guys alike to read this post!

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